‘Women most likely to have affairs at age 37’

Data: Women most likely to have affairs at age 37

Lianhe Wanbao

A compilation of Singapore’s statistics has found that local women are most likely to have extramarital affairs at the age of 37.

This is according to data published in the Singapore’s Department of Statistics Yearbook for 2011.

On this trend, a counsellor from Fei Yue Community Services says that women between 35 to 40 years old can easily fall in love again, leading to problems in their existing marriage.

According to the counsellor, most women would have established their careers by that age and also no longer devote a lot of time to caring for their children, who would already be schooling.

With more free time on their hands, these women will begin to feel lonely.

“When she is free, she will reminisce about the intimacy she had enjoyed with her husband in the past. She’ll hope for her husband to spend more time with her and shower more care on her.”

Craving affection, these lonely women can more easily stray from their marriages.

Source: Lianhe Wanbao, 3 February 2012. Click here for the Chinese report.

Yes I’m a person who thrives on logic and statistics. HOWEVER, I also know that there are times when statistics are inaccurate, therefore, should be taken with a pinch of salt.
THIS – is one of those times.
I have never quite believed that one would be more likely to have affairs at a certain age or being a certain sex alone. There are many other factors that come into play. The strength of the couple’s bond, their upbringing, their personalities, their characterse, morals, principles etc.
The reasoning is here is rather weak.  Or maybe it’s just me. Cause in my opinion, no amount of excuses can cover up the action of having an extra-marital affair. It’s just courting trouble through and through.
Imagine if it’s your partner having the affair, how would you feel? Hurt? Betrayed? Angry? How would your children feel? Think about it.
‘More free time’ and ‘loneliness’ does not justify anything. If you have free time, go hang out with your female friends, why must it be guys? Even if it has to be guys, don’t go one-on-one and watch yourself – keep a distance – or just avoid it altogether.
Loneliness? Lack of intimacy? Talk to your husband. Take time off. Go out on a date. Rekindle those feelings. It’s not easy but then again, since when is maintaining a relationship simple? Relationship is a commitment. That’s that.  NEVER use that as an excuse to go out and have an affair.
And guys out there who’s wives really did have an affair, or vice versa, you’re not off the hook. Whenever either partner has an affair, it’s both parties’ fault. It takes two to clap – and in a relationship – it’s rather true.
There ARE guys out there who really don’t show enough love, care and concern to their wives. I personally know one who goes out all the time and leave all the care-taking to his wife, giving her no emotional support. It sort of started a vicious cycle which ended with their marriage crumbling.
All in all, two conclusions:
1. Affairs can happen at any point in your marriage. Being 37 or 40 or 50 does not mean you will be more or less likely to have one.
2. There are no excuses in this realm that can cover up for the action of having an affair.
Cheers everyone ~
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