欢子 – 心痛 (Heart in Pain)

你的脸贴在我胸口
泪水早已渗透了我的衣袖
你我都沉默了许久
不该说的话你终于说出口

只怪自己当初没有抓紧你的手
失去了你我才知道你有多重要
现在说后悔也没有用
心虽然很痛

只怪自己当初没有将爱说出口
现在想说声爱你已找不到借口
失去你以后
我连呼吸也好难受

拥抱过后你转身就走
我笑着说再见心却在颤抖
我已没有勇气问你
离开的理由
想说声爱你已很久
可我从来都没有
以前我对你不够好
我也很难受

只怪自己当初没有抓紧你的手
失去了你我才知道你有多重要
现在说后悔也没有用
心虽然很痛
只怪自己当初没有将爱说出口
现在想说声爱你已找不到借口
失去你以后
我连呼吸也好难受

English Translation:

Your face was buried in my chest

With your tears having soaked through my sleeves

We were both silent for a long while

With you finally saying those forbidden words

 

Only having myself to be blamed for not holding you tight enough

Only knowing how important you are after losing you

It’s no use regretting now

even though my heart is aching

Only having myself to be blamed for not expressing my love

No longer do you have  any reasons to love me now

After losing you

Even breathing has become unbearable

 

You turned away and left after our embrace

Though smiling as I said goodbye, my heart was trembling on the inside

I’ve lost the courage to ask

for the reason you left

For a long time I’ve wanted to express my love for you

but I never did

For not treating you well in the past,

I feel the weight of my guilt

 

Only having myself to be blamed for not holding you tight enough

Only knowing how important you are after losing you

It’s no use regretting now

even though my heart is aching

Only having myself to be blamed for not expressing my love

No longer do you have  any reasons to love me now

After losing you

Even breathing has become unbearable

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高進 – 沒有一夜不想妳 (There’s not a night where I don’t think about you) Lyrics (Eng Translation)

One nice song I recently came across. Just had to share it.

Translated it so that people who don’t understand Chinese can listen as well ^^

一場雪慢慢下了一個冬季 我的心彷彿過了一個世紀

多想把妳抱在懷裡 不再讓妳受委屈

我說過這一輩子 都會好好的疼妳

忽然間妳消失在人海裡 我找不到 關於妳的一點點消息

神哪算我求求你 告訴她離開的原因

我不想再一個人 傻傻的哭泣

我沒有一夜不想妳 我的心裡好愛妳

可是妳的心 已經不在我這裡

我沒有一夜不想你 我的心裡好愛妳

不願放開手 我還深深的愛著妳

一場雪慢慢下了一個冬季 我的心彷彿過了一個世紀

多想把妳抱在懷裡 不再讓妳受委屈

我說過這一輩子 都會好好的疼妳

忽然間妳消失在人海裡 我找不到 關於妳的一點點消息

神哪算我求求你 告訴她離開的原因

我不想再一個人 傻傻的哭泣

我沒有一夜不想妳 我的心裡好愛妳

可是妳的心 已經不在我這裡

我沒有一夜不想妳 我的心裡好愛妳

不願放開手 我還深深的愛著妳

我沒有一夜不想你 我的心裡好愛妳

可是妳的心 已經不在我這裡

我沒有一夜不想妳 我已經感覺好無力

不願放開手 我還深深的愛著妳

我沒有一夜不想你 我的心裡好愛妳

不願放開手 我還深深的愛著妳

我沒有一夜不想你 我的心裡好愛妳(心裡好愛妳)

可是妳的心 已經不在我這裡(不在我這裡)

我沒有一夜不想妳(沒有一夜不想妳) 我的心裡好愛妳

不願放開手 我還深深的愛著妳(深深的深深的愛著妳..)

(English)

Only a season of winter has passed with the gentle falling of snow, yet my heart feels as if a whole century has passed

How I wish to embrace you in my arms, and not let you suffer any grievances

I have said it before for this whole life, I will always care for you.

You were suddenly lost in a sea of people and I couldn’t find any news on you

Oh God I beg you, please tell me the reason she left

I don’t want to be stupidly crying alone anymore

 

There’s not a night where I don’t think about you, my heart truly loves you so

But your heart is no longer here with me

There’s not a night where I don’t think about you, my heart truly loves you so

Unwilling to let go, I’m still deeply in love with you

 

 

Only a season of winter has passed with the gentle falling of snow, yet my heart feels as if a whole century has passed

How I wish to embrace you in my arms, and not let you suffer any grievances

I have said it before for this whole life, I will always care for you.

You were suddenly lost in a sea of people and I couldn’t find any news on you

Oh God I beg you, please tell me the reason she left

I don’t want to be stupidly crying alone anymore

 

There’s not a night where I don’t think about you, my heart truly loves you so

But your heart is no longer here with me

There’s not a night where I don’t think about you, my heart truly loves you so

Unwilling to let go, I’m still deeply in love with you

There’s not a night where I don’t think about you, my heart truly loves you so

But your heart is no longer here with me

There’s not a night where I don’t think about you, my heart truly loves you so

Unwilling to let go, I’m still deeply in love with you

 

There’s not a night where I don’t think about you, my heart truly loves you so

Unwilling to let go, I’m still deeply in love with you

 

There’s not a night where I don’t think about you, my heart truly loves you so (heart truly loves you so)

But your heart is no longer here with me (no longer here with me)

There’s not a night where I don’t think about you (not a night where I don’t think about you), my heart truly loves you so

Unwilling to let go, I’m still deeply in love with you (deeply and truly in love with you)

Titanic Exhibition ~ at MBS Museum

Ahh ~~ Titanic. The tragic tale of a ship that never made it to it’s destination. A story of love and lost, hope and despair.

A couple of weeks back, I was at Marina Bay Sands with my partner and we decided to pay the Titanic Exhibition a visit, partly cause I was bored and didn’t wanna go home so early.

So we queued and before entering the actual exhibition, we were given ‘tickets’. In this case, they resembled the boarding tickets that were used in the past. Here are mine and my partner’s:

'All aboard the Titanic with these passes!'

Sweet huh? Talk about a unique way of presentation. Seriously loved it. And thus our journey began…

Many things were shown in the Titanic Exhibition, namely:

  1. The history of Titanic from its conceptualization/designing all the way till its last breath (and everything in between of course) – with various dates being put up to give the patron a better understanding of what was done during which date/day.
  2. Many  artifacts (all original) collected from the Titanic’s wreckage and what remained of it (toothbrushes, compact mirrors, dining ware, sinks, taps, clothes etc.)
  3. Mini previews of what the various rooms of different classes looked like – first class, second class and third class
  4. A preview of what the grand staircase looked like was also re-enacted for us to see. (a professional photographer was there to help take photos but since neither of us were dressed up, we gave it a pass)
  5. A block of ice was also part of the exhibition. There were many handprints on it – some quite shallow, while others very deep. Apparently some people must have bloody thick-skinned to withstand that level of cold. Sadly I didn’t even last for 3 seconds before deciding to pull back lest I had frostbite

And of course…stories and quotes of Titanic’s original passengers were shown. That was probably the most touching part. There were similar tales of ‘Rose and Jack’ told across, with some women even staying behind with their husbands. ‘Till Death Do Us Part’ indeed.

Here’s a video of the Titanic Exhibition (in Singapore) for those of you who are curious:

Do drop by if you have the time. Really, it’s absolutely worth it.

‘Women most likely to have affairs at age 37’

Data: Women most likely to have affairs at age 37

Lianhe Wanbao

A compilation of Singapore’s statistics has found that local women are most likely to have extramarital affairs at the age of 37.

This is according to data published in the Singapore’s Department of Statistics Yearbook for 2011.

On this trend, a counsellor from Fei Yue Community Services says that women between 35 to 40 years old can easily fall in love again, leading to problems in their existing marriage.

According to the counsellor, most women would have established their careers by that age and also no longer devote a lot of time to caring for their children, who would already be schooling.

With more free time on their hands, these women will begin to feel lonely.

“When she is free, she will reminisce about the intimacy she had enjoyed with her husband in the past. She’ll hope for her husband to spend more time with her and shower more care on her.”

Craving affection, these lonely women can more easily stray from their marriages.

Source: Lianhe Wanbao, 3 February 2012. Click here for the Chinese report.

Yes I’m a person who thrives on logic and statistics. HOWEVER, I also know that there are times when statistics are inaccurate, therefore, should be taken with a pinch of salt.
THIS – is one of those times.
I have never quite believed that one would be more likely to have affairs at a certain age or being a certain sex alone. There are many other factors that come into play. The strength of the couple’s bond, their upbringing, their personalities, their characterse, morals, principles etc.
The reasoning is here is rather weak.  Or maybe it’s just me. Cause in my opinion, no amount of excuses can cover up the action of having an extra-marital affair. It’s just courting trouble through and through.
Imagine if it’s your partner having the affair, how would you feel? Hurt? Betrayed? Angry? How would your children feel? Think about it.
‘More free time’ and ‘loneliness’ does not justify anything. If you have free time, go hang out with your female friends, why must it be guys? Even if it has to be guys, don’t go one-on-one and watch yourself – keep a distance – or just avoid it altogether.
Loneliness? Lack of intimacy? Talk to your husband. Take time off. Go out on a date. Rekindle those feelings. It’s not easy but then again, since when is maintaining a relationship simple? Relationship is a commitment. That’s that.  NEVER use that as an excuse to go out and have an affair.
And guys out there who’s wives really did have an affair, or vice versa, you’re not off the hook. Whenever either partner has an affair, it’s both parties’ fault. It takes two to clap – and in a relationship – it’s rather true.
There ARE guys out there who really don’t show enough love, care and concern to their wives. I personally know one who goes out all the time and leave all the care-taking to his wife, giving her no emotional support. It sort of started a vicious cycle which ended with their marriage crumbling.
All in all, two conclusions:
1. Affairs can happen at any point in your marriage. Being 37 or 40 or 50 does not mean you will be more or less likely to have one.
2. There are no excuses in this realm that can cover up for the action of having an affair.
Cheers everyone ~

Top 10 Love Songs (IMO)

So…Valentine’s Day is around the corner, yes? How about some nice romantic love songs to set the mood?

Here are my top 10 recommendations for English Love songs:

#10: Can’t Help Falling In Love With You

#9: For You

#8: That’s The Way It Is

#7: Be With You

#6: Pretty Boy

#5: My Valentine

#4: Can You Feel The Love Tonight

#3: I Knew I loved You (Before I Met You)

#2: If I Never Knew You

and my top favourite of all times…

#1: Nothing’s Gonna Change My Love For you

NORMAL doesn’t equate to OK

Fess up.

How many of you have seen something that clearly isn’t right and is detrimental, yet simply brush it off by saying ‘It’s normal’ or something along those lines?

It could be a simple action of flirting with someone else in front of/behind your partner’s back, or losing your virginity/having sex at a young age (by young I mean below 16)

Take this article for example: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/christine-bork/teen-dating-violence_b_1247773.html

There was a quote example of Rihanna being assaulted by Chris Brown, yet there were teens who simply brushed it off as ‘normal’ and thought nothing of it. (Some even laughed it off. Good lord.)

So…

When is normal behaviour not equivalent to okay behaviour?

and where should the line be drawn?

Admittedly, there are times when it is not easy to draw the line. Here’s an example:

We have a mother who’s rather overbearing and over-controlling in the eyes of others. That’s normal, right?

But what happens when the child starts to suffer from various harmful symptoms – suicide thoughts, harming him/herself…

Normal. But, is it ok? Is it ok for the child to have these thoughts? It is NORMAL for a teen/child to feel repressed and rebellious at that stage…but is it OKAY when the child has such thoughts running through his/her mind?

It’s normal, oh yes it’s normal. But is it ok?

How about a little kid who falls down when playing? Normal? Yeah sure it’s normal. But when the kid gets hurt real bad, say a broken leg or an extremely deep cut? It’s still normal but it’s definitely not under the ‘okay’ zone anymore.

Think about it.

When is normal not okay anymore.

The Myth Soundtrack – 美丽的神话

Up till today, I have never EVER watched The Myth. In fact, I overheard the song somewhere on TV ‘Endless Love’ sung by Jackie Chan and Kim Hee Seon. I loved this song and couldn’t stop listening to it. It was really nice, I admit. Soothing and pleasing to the ear, touching too.

Then, one day, curious me decided to do some exploring and I found this version of the song. The title is 美丽的神话 (Beautiful Legend) and its sung by 孫楠 & 韓紅 (Sun Nan & Han Hong). Same melody but different lyrics. While Jackie Chan’s version had a mixture of both Chinese and Korean, this one was pure Chinese. To say I love it would be the understatement of the century. This is one of the few music pieces written in the modern times that I actually love and had my heart melting after listening to it.

美丽的神话 is a truly heartbreaking love song. The melody is enough to move any stone-hard heart, add in the lyrics and it’s the perfect recipe to cry. Yes, I cried when I first listened to this song. Here’s a Music Video if it with snippets taken from the movie The Myth:

Lyrics: [English translation by me, tried my best but not 100% accurate so do forgive me]

Chinese Lyrics 

男︰夢中人熟悉的臉孔 你是我守候的溫柔
       就算淚水淹沒天地 我不會放手
       每一刻孤獨的承受 只因我曾許下承諾
   合︰你我之間熟悉的感動 愛就要甦醒

   女︰萬世滄桑唯有愛是 永遠的神話
       潮起潮落始終不悔 真愛的相約
       幾番苦痛的糾纏多 少黑夜掙扎
       緊握雙手讓我和你 再也不離分

   男︰枕上雪冰封的愛戀 真心相擁才能融解
   合︰風中搖曳爐上的火 不滅亦不休
       等待花開春去春又來 無情歲月笑我癡狂
       心如鋼鐵任世界荒蕪 思念永相隨

   男︰萬世滄桑唯有愛是 永遠的神話
       潮起潮落始終不悔 真愛的相約
       幾番苦痛的糾纏多 少黑夜掙扎
       緊握雙手讓我和你 再也不離分

 *合︰悲歡歲月唯有愛是 永遠的神話
       誰都沒有遺忘古老 古老的誓言
       你的淚水化為漫天 飛舞的彩蝶
       愛是翼下之風兩心 相隨自在飛
       悲歡歲月唯有愛是 永遠的神話
       誰都沒有遺忘古老 古老的誓言
       你的淚水化為漫天 飛舞的彩蝶
       愛是翼下之風兩心 相隨自在飛

   女︰你是我心中唯一美麗的神話

Pinyin + English Translation

meng zhong ren shou xi de lian kong (Amongst familiar faces in my dream)
ni shi wo shou hou de wen rou (You’re the warmth which I protect)
jiu suan lei shui yan mo tian di (Even if tears engulfed the world)
wo bu hui fang shou (I’ll never let go)

mei yi ke gu du de cheng shou (Every loneliness I bear )
zhi yin wo ceng xu xia cheng nuo (is because of promises I made)
ni wo zhi jian shou xi de gan dong (The familiar touches we have between us)
ai jiu yao su xing (thus awakens love)

wan shi chang sang wei you ai shi yong yuan de shen hua (Though thousands of years bring about great changes, love remains a legend forever)
chao qi chao luo shiz hong bu hui zhen ai de xiang yue (Dynasties fall and rise, yet true love never regrets)
ji fan ku tong de jiu chan duo shao hei ye zheng zha (Suffering and fighting endless painful nights)
jin wo shuang shou rang wo he ni zai ye bu li fen (Hold my hand tight and we’ll never be apart)

zheng shang xue bing feng de ai lian (As love is hidden by a blanket of ice)
zhen xin xiang yong lan cai neng rong jie (only by truly wanting it can it be melted)
feng zhong yao ye lu shang de huo (A furnace of fire within the wind,)
bu mie yi bu xiu (blazing endlessly for eternity)

deng dai hua kai chun qu chun you lai (Waiting through endless cycles of springs)
wu qing sui yue xiao wo chi kuang (Heartless months laughing at my foolishness)
xin ru gang tie ren shi jie huang wu (Even in a barren world where one’s heart is steeled)
si nian yong xiang sui (sentimental thoughts will forever go hand-in-hand)

wan shi chang sang wei you ai shi yong yuan de shen hua (Though thousands of years bring about great changes, love remains a legend forever)
chao qi chao luo shi zhong bu hui zhen ai de xiang yue (Dynasties fall and rise, yet true love never regrets)
ji fan ruo tong de jiu chan duo shao hei ye zheng zha (Suffering and fighting endless painful nights)
jin wo shuang shou rang wo he ni zai ye bu li fen (Hold my hand tight and we’ll never be apart)

bei huan sui yue wei you ai shi yong yuan de shen hua (Countless years of joy and sorrow, yet love remains the only eternal legend)
shui dou mei you yi wang gu lao ,gu lao de shi yan (with no one forgetting the ancient oath)
ni de lei shui hua wei man tian fei wu de cai die (Your tears paint a sky filled with dancing butterflies)
ai shi yi xia zhi feng liang xin xiang sui zi zai fei (Love is the wind beneath our wings, letting two hearts fly freely hand-in-hand)

bei huan sui yue wei you ai shi yong yuan de shen hua (Countless years of joy and sorrow, yet love remains the only eternal legend)
shui dou mei you yi wang gu lao ,gu lao de shi yan (with no one forgetting the ancient oath)
ni de lei shui hua wei man tian fei wu de cai die (Your tears paint a sky filled with dancing butterflies)
ai shi yi xia zhi feng liang xin xiang sui zi zai fei (Love is the wind beneath our wings, letting two hearts fly freely hand-in-hand)

ni shi wo xin zhong wei yi mei li de shen hua (You’re the beautiful legend in my heart)